How to keep husband happy?

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Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
asslam laykam plz will u send me some infomation of how to deal with a
husband and to keep your husband happy all the time?
also plz will u forward me some muslim councilour contacts plz for
marriage?
thank u
allah hafiz

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Answer:

How to keep husband happy?
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His
forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He
allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness
that there is no one (no idol, no person,  no grave, no prophet,  no
imam,  no dai,  nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we
bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of
His Messengers.
Your Question: plz will u send me some infomation of how to deal with
a husband and to keep your husband happy all the time?
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 30 Surah Rum verse 21: And among
His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves
that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and
mercy between your (hearts); Verily, in that are Signs for those who
reflect.
Dear and Beloved Sister in Islam, what I am about to say from the
Quran and the Sunnah regarding the key to a successful relationship
between the husband and a wife in marriage might seem ‘politically
incorrect’ in this educated-modern but ignorant and ungodly world; but
Allah is our witness, there is no better path to a successful
marriage!

While Islam has laid several responsibilities and duties upon the
believing men as a test in the life of this world (financial,
physical, governance, jihad, etc) for an entry into Paradise; Allah
Subhanah has balanced the test of duties and responsibilities of the
believing women for their entry into Paradise with one supreme
responsibility that is equivalent to all the duties of the man!  If
the believing woman is successful in this one test, she has been
promised Paradise!  And that test of the believing woman is: earning
the satisfaction of her husband!

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 34: Men are
the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the
one more than the other, and because they support them from their
means.  Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard
in (the husband`s) absence what Allah would have them guard (their
property, their chastity, their honor, etc.)
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3254        Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
Allah`s Messenger (saws) said, "When a woman observes the five times
of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her chastity and obeys her
husband, she may enter by any of the Gates of Paradise she wishes."

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 286         Narrated by Umm Salamah
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘If a woman dies while her husband was
pleased with her, she will enter Paradise.’

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3272        Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
When Allah`s Messenger (saws) was asked which woman was best, he
(saws) replied, "The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at
her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not go against his
wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he
disapproves."

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 284         Narrated by Abu Ali Talq ibn Ali
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘When a man sends for his wife for the
satisfaction of his need, she should go to him even if she may be
occupied in baking bread (cooking food).’

In light of the guidance of the Quran and the Sunnah, any wife who
sincerely wishes to have peace, tranquility, harmony, love and mercy
between herself and her husband must be devoutly obedient to her
husband!  In these modern-educated but ignorant and ungodly times,
where the wife and the husband are pronounced as absolute equals and
thus made to compete against rather than complement each other; where
each is guided by their ‘supposed’ friends and loved ones to dominate
the other; where the woman is told time and again to ‘come out’ and
‘deliver herself’ from being obedient to her husband; where obedience
to one’s husband is labeled by the ignorant as being a ‘door-mat’; the
guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws) regarding what makes a
successful marriage might indeed seem ‘strange’ in this modern but
ignorant society!  But the honest truth is, successful marriages are
also a ‘strange’ commodity in these trying times!

Sahih Muslim Hadith 270      Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: ‘Islam initiated as something
strange, and it would revert to its (old position) of being strange;
so Good Tidings for the ‘Strangers’!’

This modern-educated-but-ignorant society has played right into the
hands and ploys of the Shaytaan, who likes nothing better than
dissension between the husband and the wife!

Sahih Muslim Hadith 6754     Narrated by Jabir ibn Abdullah
I heard Allah`s Messenger (saws) as saying: ‘The throne of Iblis is
upon the ocean and he sends detachments (to different parts) in order
to put people to trial; and the most important figure in his eyes is
one who is most notorious in sowing the seed of dissension (between a
husband and wife).’

Thus, if the believers wish to live their married lives with their
spouse in peace and harmony and tranquility and love and mercy; the
believing man will have to fulfill his responsibilities and duties and
give all his rights in full to his family, and the believing woman
will have to live her life in absolute obedience to her husband.  If
either of the two fall short in any of their responsibilities, love
and mercy will give way to oppression and dissension!

It is the duty and responsibility of the believing women to figure out
what exactly pleases her husband and strive to do those deeds; and
ascertain what displeases her husband and absolutely abstain from
doing those deeds!  Such is the level of obedience demanded from the
believing wife in a righteous marriage, that the Messenger of Allah
(saws) said these words in an authentic hadith:

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 285         Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Had it been permissible that a person may
prostrate himself before another, I would have ordered that a wife
should prostrate herself before her husband!’

Your Question: also plz will u forward me some muslim councilour
contacts plz for marriage?
Beloved Sister in Islam, if you could kindly give us the location of
your city and state, we shall try to the best of our ability to get
you in contact with some righteous muslim scholars or counselors who
might be able to guide you in light of the Quran and the Sunnah, Insha
Allah.

If one trusts,  obeys,  and follows the guidance and commands of Allah
and His Messenger (saws),   he can be assured of never ever being
misled;   but if one believes,  obeys and follows any other guidance,
other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws),  he can be assured
of being led astray.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s
Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me.  Allah Alone
Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,